If you’re like most men, you're probably sending out tons of messages and receiving hardly any responses.
In fact, if you wanted to be 100% certain of receiving a response, you would have to send out 114 messages, according to research.
Kind of depressing, right?
There are men out there with more experience, better profiles, and stronger messages stealing your dates from you. After all, you’re just another stranger from the dating site, and he’s more interesting.
It doesn’t matter if you’re in NYC, Los Angeles, Dallas, Toronto, London, or in the UK’s most remote area, you can crush your competition by getting an “A-Team” expert in your corner.
It’s time to step your game. Will a coach help you to win?
The Magician Behind The Curtain
A good online dating coach has an arsenal of personal and professional experience, research, and hard data behind the methods they use. They know what messages and profiles attract which kind of women, and they use that knowledge to target the attractive women you want to meet.
Here at VIDA, we use a data-driven approach. We track the messages we send, analyze what gets results, and even split-test words, headlines, and photos. That’s what it takes to play at the top, and if you want to get optimal results for yourself, having an online dating expert on your team just makes sense.
You could spend hours studying the ins-and-outs of Match.com, OkCupid, and Tinder on a 4.7 inch screen until you are a mobile dating master. Or you could spend all that time doing something you want to do, and trust someone who has already done all of the research for you.
Hiring an online dating coach just makes sense, but the last thing you want to do is pick the wrong one.
As with any service for hire, you’ll find some shady operators out there. Some base their advice on observation rather than systematically testing their methods, which means they don’t truly know what works best. Others just aren’t fluent in the language of attraction.
Most offer a free consultation, and that’s when you need to be on high alert for signs that you’re dealing with the minor leagues. You’re going to invest some money, so you want a major league coach.
Warning Signs Of A Bad Online Dating Coach
If a dating coach says one of these things, run for the hills:
“Read each woman’s profile and come up with a unique message targeted just for her – each and every time.”
The method behind this particular bit of madness is that she’ll appreciate the time and effort you took to painstakingly write a message just for her, and possibly even respond!
But the two key words there are time and effort.
Let’s say TennisCutie471 catches your eye. You spend 20 minutes reading her profile, Googling tennis puns, and writing a message that lets her know she’s a unique snowflake in your eyes.
Any online dating coach worth his salt would advocate sending one witty, creative tennis-themed message to her AND every other attractive local woman who has the keyword ‘tennis’ in her profile.
And guess what? Every single one of those women will think you spent time reading her profile, because you connect with her on her interest in tennis. Cut and paste messages actually work, and guys who use them get more dates. Read more here.
“Your inbox will be jam-packed with high-quality women when we get done.”
Bad online dating coaches tend to dangle that juicy carrot in front of potential clients, because doesn’t a full inbox sound awesome? Who wouldn’t want that?
But there is one major issue with that promise:
The really attractive women on dating sites don’t need to send messages. Their inboxes are always packed with messages from guys just like you. Some women even pay us just to weed through the inbound barrage of interest for them.
“All you need to do is read this…. And this, and this, and this.”
Some online dating coaches believe dating salvation comes in a manual, complete with readings, practice exercises, and video links. But you’re not a high school student cramming for SATs – you’re a successful adult with a full-time job. Who’s got time for study group?
If you’re the “DIY” type who thinks that whole study group thing sounds pretty cool, well – go right ahead.
But the quickest and easiest way to learn is to see how an expert would do it for you…
Bring An Expert On Board
As guys, we spend hours and hours each week staring at photos of women on Tinder and Match.com who we’ll probably never meet. It’s time consuming, and frustrating.
Getting expert help with your online dating can keep it from turning into a fruitless part-time job. 1 in 3 men have yet to go on a single date with a woman they met online – and that’s despite their best efforts. That’s why so many guys just give up after a few months.
Look at it this way – if your car quit working, you’d call a mechanic, right? Online dating is no different. If you’re not getting the results you want, consult an expert!
If you want to stack the odds of meeting your ideal girl in your favor, you’ll need more than just another online dating coach. What you need is to learn from the best in the business, and take notes while we implement all of the best practices we’ve discovered from endless experimentation for you.
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