If you’re like most guys, writing your dating profile is frustrating and downright draining.
It’s so hard to find the right words to say when writing about yourself. That’s why we spend so much time staring at an incomplete bio box, hoping inspiration will strike soon!
Welcome to your inspiration! It’s great to have you here 🙂
Remember, your first line is CRUCIAL. Not only do you have to grab her attention hard, you have to make her want to keep reading. The competition’s so fierce that the first sentence can literally make or break your chances of meeting a great girl.
No pressure, right? Don’t worry, you’ll be covered by the time you finish reading this post…
Prepare To Unleash Your Inner Don Draper
Think about your profile as a commercial – you’re about to unleash the inner Don Draper you never knew you had. Commercials have to command your attention from the very first moment, otherwise you’ll fast forward them or go grab a snack, right?
Your dating profile is no different.
The very first line of your profile has one mission: Make her feel something.
If she forms an emotional connection with your writing, she’ll keep reading. And if she likes what she’s seeing, she’ll return your message.
Here are some examples of opening lines that will make her forget about all those other guys, and start focusing on you.
Appeal To Her Imagination:
Windsurfing in Aruba. Scaling a 90-degree cliff face. Jamming out on the drums with my best friends. No weekend’s complete without a healthy dose of adrenaline… I mean, couldn’t we all use a little extra excitement in our lives?
Everyone loves to travel on dating sites and apps, but no one wants to read “I love to travel” for the millionth time. But with an opening line like “Windsurfing in Aruba”, she knows you’re not just another boring homebody. Plus, she has something specific to visualize, so she’s engaged and imagining you from the get-go. And just like that, you’ve formed a connection with the reader.
Here is another example of a travel intro done right:
Feasting on shrimp fresh off the boat in Belgium, sampling Bordeaux deep in France’s wine country, and exploring Marrakech’s night markets… I might not be able to compete with Andrew Zimmern’s travel schedule, but my passport’s not lacking in the stamp department.
In just two sentences, you’ve shown her you’re a refined, adventurous globetrotter who enjoys the finer things in life. And you did it by showing her, not telling her. She doesn’t want to read a list of adjectives – she wants stories that prove you have those traits.
Add A Smile To Her Day:
Tri-lingual astronaut. 2-time Esquire cover model. Part-time super spy. Right now I’m touring the Caribbean via yacht, trading government secrets, working on my tan, and holding a Mai Tai… shaken, not stirred.
Humor can be a tricky thing on dating profiles, because it’s so subjective. What makes one woman giggle could fall flat for another. But using “over the top” humor plays well on more casual apps like Tinder, as long as you do it right.
Notice how visual everything in this example is. She can easily imagine you sailing the warm blue waters of the Caribbean, and it’s pleasurable for her to imagine herself by your side sipping a Mai Tai.
You made her smile, you made her happy… now she wants to know more about you.
Make Her Want To Join You:
Here is an example of how to promise good things to come, without crossing the border into brag-land:
Must love from-scratch cinnamon rolls, spontaneous 3-day weekends, art galleries, snorkeling along secluded island reefs, and, of course, long walks on the beach – everyone on here loves those, right?
You can also use psychology to achieve this same goal:
Don’t worry, I get it. You didn’t just fall off a turnip truck, and you’re way too savvy to believe every outlandish claim made on this site. So for a refreshing change of pace, here’s the truth.
In this example, you’re inviting her to form an alliance with you. You’re singling her out – you know she’s not like those other women who fall for a line of profile BS. You two are on the same page. She’s already feeling more comfortable with you, so she’s going to keep reading and will be more likely to reach out when she’s done.
Why These Examples Work Like Magic
These examples of opening lines are effective because they evoke an emotional response. Your competition is busy writing crap like this:
“Working out, having fun and enjoying life!” There’s nothing compelling about those words. Boring does not trigger the emotional response you need to capture her attention.
“Have fun and enjoy life” is too vague for her to imagine, and she’s not going to bother picturing herself on the treadmill next to you at the gym. Where’s the intrigue? The excitement? Not in this profile – and just like that, she’s on to the next one.
But with our compelling opening lines, she’s reading every last word. And if you’re curious how examples like these might end, check out these 8 irresistible profile examples – they will take your dating profile to the next level.
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